Monday, February 18, 2019

Crying all the time...




Is it possible to change your chemical make up without medication? 

I need to do some research on this subject.

I'm way to emotional.  Most of the time for no good reason.  I cry when confronted...even if I'm completely in the right.  I cry during songs.  I cry during movies.  I cry when reading greeting cards.  I have even felt myself starting to tear up at work meetings.  (I fight those...I actually try to fight all of it)

I feel like I am a strong person.  I have been though some crap and came out of it ok for the most part.  I was in an abusive relationship and didn't cry this much.

Wikihow.com https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Yourself-from-Crying says you should do the following to stop yourself from crying easily...

Method 1 Stopping Yourself from Crying with Physical Actions
  • Focus on your breathing.
  • Move your eyes to control your tears.
  • Distract yourself with a physical movement.
  • Relax your facial expression.
  • Remove the lump in your throat.
It goes on to say that changing your focus helps.  Thinking of something funny.  Remind yourself that your strong (that would probably make me cry...when I'm feeling emotional I can't think of me personally...the crying always gets worse then). 
Blame your tears on something else.  I have actually tried that one..doesn't work for me. 
Dry your tears discreetly (also doesn't work...when I cry I FACE CRY...there is no hiding it)
Remove yourself from the situation.  Most of the time not possible.

There are several other methods listed in this article.  I might have to delve deeper into some research.  I really need to find a solution.  A way to stop this crap. 

I don't want to be emotional.  Its alike I feel everything sometimes but I really just want to feel nothing.  And its not like I care about everything and everyone...I literally don't. 

SO that also makes this more of a mystery. 

So basically I don't think there is much I can do.    I shall continue my search.

Can you offer some words of wisdom or advice? 

Wednesday, February 6, 2019

Politically Correct

There is a lot of talk about political correctness lately.

I think a lot of it has to do with our President.  But it also has to do with the century/era we are living in.

I don't give a shit. 

Don't get me wrong.  I'm not walking about saying offensive things, degrading people or even being rude.  If you are talking about a subject and you are saying exactly how you are feeling then you should be able to safely say it.  I guess within reason.

I think there are also different levels and versions of political correctness.

When my mother was in physical rehab the aids/nurses that were taking care of her were of all different nationalities.  None of that matter (most of them sucked at their job) but the ones who were dark skinned my mother insisted on referring to them as "the colored girl".  They never heard her or were even aware she was saying that...at least I am 99% sure but I feel that was rude to say in general.   When I have told that story to friends...they say its the generation.  Still wrong but I agree

SO now with our generation its different.  We would never say anything like that.  As a matter of fact I think we are so politically correct that its almost offensive if we say anything. 

My mom has now moved into assist living.  When I tell people their response is always "I'm so sorry..that must have been a hard decision or hard on you"  Are they saying that to be politically correct too? 

Because it wasn't

It wasn't a hard decision and it hasn't been hard on me.

Its been a lot of work...searching, paperwork and moving her but that it.

My mom is old...she has become unstable when walking, she hasn't been eating properly or bathing properly.  This decision was a no brainer. 

So does that fall under the political correctness issues going on....

I have no idea...nor do I have any idea if this post even makes sense.

Doesn't have to either...